I Love my Curve

Boy !!! I love my Curve and how!!!

I'm sure that this statement will certainly raise few eyebrows , bring some grins and some frowns too . Now before everyone throws me into the El James bucket , I wish to to clarify that my SMILE is the only crooked curvy asset that I desire to possess . For the rest of them all I can say that it always be WIP (work in progress). Having said that , have we all really counted the number of times we smile everyday? Do we really remember or rather cherish the good moments of our life or sulk thinking about those painful days ? Do we celebrate the tasks accomplished or brood about the unaccomplished ones.?

Statistics prove that humans always tend to incline towards the latter part . So how difficult or easier it is to switch to the former part. While they say it is Easier Said Than Done ,  it is always in our best interests to Say It and then Do It. The ability to remain Cheerful , Positive and Smile is not a Personality Trait but a Virtue, one can acquire. All you need to do is 'make that choice and be patient to develop it' . As always the New Year brings Resolutions and Goals Setting . It is important that we make Cheerfulness as our life goal. The rest of them will definetly follow.

Right from the time we are born , we have mascots who bring cheer in our life. Our parents, teachers , friends and family teach us and coach us to be cheerful .  However ,going forward , the only way to remain joyous and keep smiling is to be our own Cheer-Finder.  I have realized that kids are the best life coaches and one can derive a lot of life lessons from them. The most valuable of them is their ability to be cheerful and smile in their most adverse and painful moments. And when those 5 year olds and 10 year olds can do it so effortlessly , what stops us from being like them. Keeping the child within yourself alive should also mean being like them in the most difficult situations.

There's a lot to be cheerfurl about; everyone just needs to find their own reason. Everyone for once need to make that STRAIGHT LINE CROOKED . Or Curvy if I may have to insist ;)

Am I SISU'ed

Most of the times during the growing up years , girls have been told or taught directly or indirectly, that boys are the stronger sex and girls are the weaker ones. And most of the times, they do grow up believing it, or rather imbibing it within themselves and their systems . Fortunately for our children  atleast, most of them will grow against the tide, disbelieving in this norm .

My parents were blessed with two girls. Both of us were brought up in the best possible environment,  with the best possible values, where there was no scope of discrimination and we were always given complete freedom to carve our own niches. As an adolescent and a young adult, I did not bother to guage my strength within, since I was always cocooned within the boundaries of my family. Reading stories and listening to people talk about their hardships and challenges, always made me under-estimate myself w.r.t my resilience quality.

From childhood, to education , to career , to marriage and finally the motherhood , was all a smooth sail, until it suddenly dawned on us ; something that swept the ground of our feet and left us numb , speechless not knowing what to do , what lied in future. Our second child was diagnosed with a chronic diseases right at birth and with it began our endless visits to the doctors and the hospital. It was as if my life was static, and everyone around me were moving at a roaring pace and I was just unable to catch up with them. Finally after a fierce battle of 10 long years , he left us for a better place, hopefully, where pain didn't exist.
So, what was it then and what is it now , that made me withstand these trying times. Was I born with SISU or did I acquire it over the years of growing up . What is SISU ? Well SISU is a FINNISH word for that last bit of strength lying deep within you , but difficult to draw out because you need extreme perseverance to reach that kind of strength. Surely enough, SISU can be acquired over a period of time. It is a philsophy that states that "what must be done, will be done, regardless of what it takes." I could do it only because of my dear ones; my family, my friends and my well wishers. 

It is always better to over- estimate yourself than doing a vice versa because with immense faith and confidence in Yourself and the Almighty comes your Stoic Determination , Your SISU to face your forseen and unforeseen fears. Get Inspired and Do Inspire . Empower Yourself to Empower Others.  And lastly , in whatever situation you belong to , don't let that little child within you , that YOU get lost . Treasure it, Cherish it since it will always turn around your weaknesses into your Strenghts , Your SISU